It was one of the most amazing times with my husband and we were given the incredible gift of life. No matter how different it went than we wanted it to, it was awesome! My husband would like to add that he imagines it to feel like 'sliding down a joy rainbow into a cloud of kittens. They really jerk you back and forth to get the baby out. My son's head was stuck, but eventually he came out. They rushed him off to clean him so I did not get to see him right away, but instead I got to see him for the first time through my husband's eyes, and you could see the pride in his face, and it also helped me realize our baby was healthy, beautiful, and things would be fine.
Honestly it was so much easier to push this baby out than going through these 10 months of pregnancy. They say you don't feel pain, but I almost think your body can't tell the difference when it's intense at the end.
And afterward, the biggest relief ever. Once that baby is out, phew. You can breathe. I read all the books and thought I was so prepared, but it was way different than what I expected. It was much easier than I expected in some ways, but also a lot harder in other ways like delivering the placenta afterward. I was dying. We have been trained that it is all pain, but coming at it with a different vantage point and desire changed everything. The word 'pain' never even crossed my mind. Pressure yes, pain no.
When I broke my tailbone, that's how I knew it was broken, because it felt the same as when I felt the urge to push.
So much pressure on my pelvis and tailbone! When they broke my water, I had flashbacks to my first labor where my water had broken right away. Those contractions are times worse. Each contraction took all my focus. I arched my back with each one just trying to physically get away from the pain. It felt like someone was pushing forcefully from the inside against my spine and twisting it at the same time.
It just made me want to crawl out of my skin. It's pain I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. It's by this point in labor that I usually break down in tears and say that I can't do it anymore.
Wondering what the beginning of labor feels like? What about contractions and back labor? These moms share their personal experiences. My symptoms did not fit into either category.
I had a lot of cramping under my belly, not radiating from the top down or in my back like the books said. When I finally went into the hospital to be checked, sure I would be sent home, I was told that I was actually in labor. Louis Park, MN. Instead I felt like I was having one long contraction that felt like the worst menstrual cramps I had ever had.
It was much more intense and it was almost all in my lower back. Every time a contraction would come, my lower back would slowly begin to seize up. It was kind of like the muscles inside were slowly twisting harder and harder until it became almost unbearable, and then it would slowly subside. This is what back labor felt like for me, and it was still much more painful than I had imagined it would be.
It would subside and come back until the beautiful epidural lady came to save me. If I fought it, the pain became worse. Once I surrendered to and accepted the pain, it was more bearable. It is like getting caught in the undertow of a wave.
Being trapped underwater is scary — you can fight it and get more scared or you can just let go and wait until the wave releases you. Also, there was an intense searing pain in my lower back, which was helped when my husband applied pressure to it. It feels like your abdomen is trying to squeeze out all its contents, not just the baby. They come in waves and varying intensity throughout the laboring process. I would go from a pretty tolerable one to an extremely intense one the next time.
I have a pretty high tolerance for pain and it is definitely the hardest thing I have ever done. While the vast majority of our respondents found labor extremely painful, some were pleasantly surprised to find it easier than they had imagined. Keep reading to hear more about their experiences. I went in for my 36th week visit and the midwife was checking to see if I was dilated. She got a funny look on her face and told me I was five centimeters dilated and 90 percent effaced!
I went to the hospital, got an epidural, and four hours later had a baby girl virtually pain free. I was in labor for 16 hours, and it seemed to fly by. And it all got much easier once the epidural kicked in. To me, it felt like a menstrual pain that was more painful than normal but not excruciating. Actually, the worst part was how a contraction would kick in whenever the nurse put the baby monitor on my stomach! It feels like cramping when you get your period, just a little more intense.
And the pushing is a relief. Once you hold the baby you forget all about the pain you were in. A handful of women mentioned that the pain didn't escalate until their water broke. Here are their experiences. It was more of a tightening that got worse and worse until it peaked, then dropped off. If I could have had this particular pain once an hour or even once every 15 minutes, I'd have been able to tolerate it.
But the fact that just as soon as you get through one contraction another is coming, that's what wears you down. The pain was so bad that in the middle of one contraction I imagined that I walked away from my body.
There are things you can do to help yourself get through the more challenging aspects of parenthood. You can read about some common emotional problems in parents with new babies here. Becoming a mum can mean your hopes and dreams have come true. You may love feeling your baby move inside.
You may feel a sense of achievement in giving birth. You may love holding, touching, watching, smelling and playing with your baby. Some mums may not feel that overwhelming sense of love they were anticipating straight away. Sometimes the happy emotions of motherhood are mixed up with feelings of loss, fear, worry, guilt and frustration.
You might think:. While women usually start preparing emotionally for parenthood during pregnancy, some fathers begin this process after the birth. As a result, the reality of fatherhood can be quite a shock. Even if you have been preparing throughout the pregnancy, some fathers can feel unprepared for the reality of having a newborn. Some fathers can feel fierce, protective, overwhelming love for their child straight away, for others it may take a bit longer.
Fatherhood is just as challenging as motherhood, though not always for the same reasons. With any new or difficult situation, sometimes you are able to cope with the challenge, and sometimes you can feel overwhelmed. Fatherhood is no exception. Just remember — there are plenty of things you can do to support yourself and your partner during this time.
If it is takinf more than a couple of weeks to feel a connection with your baby, you should talk to a health professional. Read more about common emotional problems here. This publication is provided for education and information purposes only.
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